Read the given passage and answer the questions that follow: One fact that never fails to astound me: Despite the immense culture changes and leap in knowledge over the epochs, the human brain— that crucible of Consciousness, roiling with the psychologies that govern the behaviors we call human nature– has remained virtually unchanged for the past hundred thousand years. How humbling to consider that what is cognitively true of our ancestors—- who, lacking a knowledge of astronomy as the correct frame or reference for planetary motion, explained eclipses as acts of god and comets as omens of ill fortune— is as true of us. The explanatory contexts in which this tendency manifests today may be different, But it manifests just the same—– especially in our interpersonal relationships, where so much of the correct frame of reference, that is the other person’s inner reality, is invisible to us. It helps to remember that between our feelings and anything in the external world that causes the ripples of consciousness we call feelings— any difficult situation, any painful event, any hurtful action of another— their lie myriad possible causal explanations. One fact I have learned about life through the empiricism of living: When we are hurt in a relationship, when we are spinning in the blooming buzzing confusion of sensemaking, the explanation we elect as correct usually has more to do with our own fears and vulnerabilities than it does with the reality of the situation; almost always, that explanation is wrong; almost always, the true explanation has more to do with the fears and vulnerabilities roiling in the other person invisibly to us. And so, sensemaking and storytelling creatures that we are, we move through the real world in a self-generated dream, responding not to reality but to the stories we tell ourselves about what is true — stories at best incomplete and at worst injuriously incorrect, stories about what we do and don’t deserve, stories the cost of which is Connection, trust, love. The great Buddhist teacher and peace activist Thich Nhat Hanh (October 11, 1926 – January 22, 2022) offers a three-step remedy for this elemental human tendency in a portion of his slender, potent book Fear: Essential Wisdom for Getting Through the Storm. Hanh offers a three-step process for correcting wrong perception in relationship Conflict and emerging victorious with deeper love: The first thing we can do in these situations is to acknowledge internally that the pictures we have in our head, what we think happened, may not be accurate. Our practice is to breathe and walk until we are more calm and relaxed. The second thing we can do, when we are ready, is to tell the people who we think have hurt us that we are suffering and that we know our suffering may have come from our own wrong perception. Instead of coming to the other person or people with an accusation, we can come to them for help and ask them to explain, to help us understand why they have said or done those things. There is a third thing we need to do, if we can. The third thing is very hard, perhaps the hardest. We need to listen very carefully to the other person’s response to truly understand and try to correct our perception. With this, we may find that we have been the victim of our wrong perceptions. Most likely the other person has also been a victim of wrong perceptions. Question – The human brain has apparently not evolved, says the author. Which is its best example?
