– What is the connection between ‘myriad possible causal explanations’ and ‘our own fears and vulnerabilities than it does with the reality of the situation’? 1. Any breakdown of communication is due to the absence of native intelligence. If both parties drop their psychological guards, they quickly recognise the vulnerabilities of the other, and the true essence of love repairs the breach. 2. As we are never alone, social pressure, dogma and received wisdom destroy the bedrock of empathy between two partners. We are at the mercy of our elders, our peers and Conventional structures of engagement.